When you plant lettuce, and if he does not grow well, you do not blame the lettuce. You look for reasons why he did not grow well.Maybe he needs tinder, or more water, or a little sun. You never blame the lettuce. But if we have problems with friends or family, we blame others. But if we know how to treat them, they will grow well, like lettuce. Blaming have absolutely no positive effect, nor by trying to persuade using excuses and explanations.
That was my experience. Not to blame, not to give a reason or explanation, but just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change. On one day in Paris, I gave a lecture about not blame the lettuce.After that conversation, I was doing walking meditation alone, and when I turned the corner of a building, I heard a girl of 18 years said to his mother, "Mom I remember to flush.
I was your salad ". I am very pleased that he has understood all what I mean. Then I heard her mother replied, "Yes, my daughter, and I also your salad. So do not forget to flush me also ". Mother and son practiced together, it's really beautiful
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